There are the usual stress-causing suspects in a teen’s life: school, sports and a desire to fit in. But there are other parts of your teens life that are stressing them out that you probably haven’t considered. Here are some common stressors for teens that you might not have thought of, but can now look out for.
Friends
Most teens, regardless of their popularity, have a few close friends that they spend most of their time with. If may seem like they have a great relationship since they spend so much time together, but it’s possible that their friendship—or at least aspects of it—are putting pressure on your teen. Watch their behavior the next time their friends are around, but keep in mind that you can’t see everything—especially whatever goes on outside your yard.
Skills
Everyone has different skills, but in high school there isn’t always a chance for this to be acknowledged. Especially if your child is an out-of-the-box thinker, they may have skills that are different from what kids “need” to have in order to be successful and get good grades. If you notice this, reassure him or her that there’s nothing wrong with them and work together to improve their other skills that are needed to get through these high school years.
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Family
This includes you—family stress is big one for teens, and it might be harder for you to recognize since you’re an active participant. Teens aren’t always going to talk about their problems at home, especially to their parents since they are directly involved. Be aware of your actions and consider how they may be affecting your child.
Finding their Sense of Self
As teens grow up they are constantly going through change and trying to figure out who they are and the type of person they want to be. They will be tested regularly: by kids at school, their will power, choices and ethics. This can be stressful even if they don’t realize it. Talk to your kid about individuality and know that some kids have a harder time accepting who they are because they just want to be “cool” and fit in.
Look for signs of stress in your teen, including lack of motivation, change in eating and sleeping patterns, isolation and even crying and moodiness. Suggest exercise, journaling or other stress-reducing activities that will help them express their stress and manage it in the future.
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